After working with a young mother who loved her children deeply and felt the overwhelm that comes with very young children, she came up with this phrase. She made it into a poster and put it on her door as a daily reminder.
I have always been a doodler since I was a child. Instead of feeling pressure to "make a work of art" with pastels or paint since I love art making but never seem to have the time, I have a sketch book handy in which I doodle when I am on the phone, just hanging out or waiting for an appointment. I then discovered that there has been some research on the art of doodling and its benefits - from expression of emotions too complex for words to a "mediator between the spectrum of thinking too much or thinking too little, which then helps you focus on the current situation". They even discovered through some testing that individuals who doodle have a higher memory retention when they are doodling while listening to information. I have introduced this to clients when they are struggling at home with emotions that are challenging. This kind of expression is spontaneous, non-pressured with no outcome in mind, and exploratory. The action of doodling seems to provide some internal ease and stress reduction. One client remarked that she was surprised by the outcome and that it felt good to see how she felt inside herself externalized right onto the paper.
- Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships - John Welwood
- Radical Acceptance - Tara Brach
- True Refuge - Tara Brach
- Falling to Pieces Without Falling Apart - Mark Epstein
- When Things Fall Apart - Pema Chodren
- The Gifts of Imperfection - Brene Brown
- Daring Greatly - Brene Brown
- Calming Your Anxious Mind - Jeffrey Brantley
- Healing Through the Dark Emotions - Miriam Greenspan
- A Hidden Wholeness - Parker J. Palmer
- The Art of Stillness:Adventures in Going Nowhere - Pico Iyer
- Broken Open - Elisabeth Lesser
- The Art of Possibility - Rosamund Stone Zander